Pay Attention

Men and women certainly have different manners of transmission.

Many arguments and hurt feelings have arisen when a spouse misunderstood and did not communicate their exact feelings and missed the important message completely.

Women thrive on communication and use many avenues to send messages. I’m sure you can come up with many examples. While men miss about half of them because they generally aren’t looking, or listening, and might not detect anything if they were. We know our men are very busy making a living, keeping things in order, and may miss the opportunity to react to certain situations that need addressed. This isn’t their fault girls, they are just wired very differently.

The apostle Peter was a married man and knew exactly what he was writing about: Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with great respect and love as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers (1 Peter 3:7). His greatness is seen in his faith, work, steadfastness, and, at times, his humble repentance.  If ever a man were great it would be the man willing to forsake all and follow Christ.


Considerate means “not to hurt intentionally” Live with each other according to knowledge. Do not take each other for granted. Love and let yourself be loved. Don’t expect the unexpected. Put your love on a pedestal … love is a special trust, a forgiving friendship that has no explanation … a sacrifice that has no selfishness. Love is not perfect but we can strive for perfection, it is an expression of the heart, and a wonderful honor to have.

The men of God are leaders and good leaders adapt to their surroundings. Husbands and wives, don’t insist that your spouse adapt communication style to meet your selfish ways. Learn each others languages, actions and tone in voice. There is a marvelous benefit in letting your spouse train you in other communications. You will understand the other 50 percent of the human race a lot better … so pay attention

Enjoy what you have, someday it may not be there.


Resource: Focus on the family

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